The Beginning of Hell

So... in November 0f 2008, Me, my-ex husband, his new wife, and my children move to Baja, under the roof of what used to be my house. A little awkward! Jack and Julia married 1 month after he and I divorced, so you have to deduce that he was seeing her at some point during our marriage. However, they also knew each other prior to our marriage as well. Jack and I dated for about 8 years prior to getting married. Things didn't always go well and we split for a couple of months. It was during this time that he met Julia. It was at a strip club where she was working. Why she was working there I have no idea, she had a Masters in finance or something like that, so she put it to good use by pole dancing. Their fling lasted about 3 months when she left him but not before she became pregnant. She kept that a secret, one that would surface many years later to my shock. Sounds a little bit like a soap opera? This was the beginning of many lies and shocking behavior that would eventually lead to the collapse my our marriage. It was always my intention after the divorce to keep the family as close as possible, physically and emotionally. I hated the idea of having a bitter, ugly situation where the kids get stuffed in the middle of all the adults poor choices. So you are probably asking why the hell am I blogging all of this personal crap? I need to get it all out before I absolutely lose my mind. I need to put all that has happened to me in perspective. I can't keep dong this journaling in written form. Perhaps feedback, if this gets any attention, will be welcome. So back to Julia. She had her baby without the knowledge of Jack and disappeared from Jack's life until the year before he and I divorced but I did not know any of this. At least they waited until I was ready to divorce the man anyway to tell me what was going on. She had the baby and had the nerve to give her the same name as me. I always wondered why she chose to do this. I don't care how much she liked my name, and she certainly didn't know me,it was just bizzare. When Jack found out about her baby she was already 8 years old, the same age as my son. So that means that they were seeing each other right  up until the time Jack and I got married because I got pregnant immediately after our marriage. The timing fit too well.  I have to stop now. I really thought I was over this emotional crap but this is still effecting me.